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Advice Columns Tackle Old Wedding Snub and Vitamin-Induced Paralysis

Published 23 November 2025

A family member's decision not to attend a wedding 51 years ago has resurfaced as a point of contention ahead of a granddaughter's upcoming nuptials, according to a letter shared in a popular advice column. The writer, married to the groom's older brother, explained that financial constraints at the time made travel difficult, but the primary reason for skipping the event was hurt feelings over the groom's choice of best man.

The wedding took place in a distant state, and the writer was seven months pregnant with her third child while living paycheck to paycheck. The groom, John, selected a cousin for the honor instead of his only brother, with no prior discussion about the decision. The family cited the impending birth and costs as their excuse, and no fallout occurred between the brothers then or since. Over the years, John has had little contact with the cousin.

Now, with the couple's granddaughter engaged, John's wife, Suzy, informed the young woman and her fiancé that the writer's family had not attended the original ceremony, framing them as uncaring relatives. The writer questioned Suzy's motives for raising the issue after more than five decades and wondered whether to...

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